3 Ways to connect with your soul, and sidestep the ego
As humans, we have a lot in common. As individuals, we are very different. As humans, we are all one. As individuals, we are vibrating at different frequencies. We are spiritual beings having an earthly experience. There are many lessons to learn in this life, and we have a guide to help us through it, if we will tap into it.
The fact that our true selves are our spirit should make it easy to listen to what our spirit, or soul is saying. We would be able to hear it, if it wasn’t for that loud dude in front of soul called Ego. The ego is your conscious mind. The part of your identity that you consider as self. It’s your mask: the face you show to the world, your outward earthly titles like boyfriend, son, Father, co-worker. When somebody has a big ego, it usually means that he is full of himself.
In astrology, the ego self is symbolized by the Sun. It shines bright, styling and profiling. The question is: does the ego make a good guide? If one is ruled by the ego all the time, what choices will he make?
Dancing with the ego
When the ego is running the show, you place value on external things. You place your self-worth on material phenomena and social standing.
If you find yourself thinking about the same thing over and over, replaying past slights and hurts, peak-a-boo. If you find that you are ruled by fear or anxiety, or you talk down to yourself (E.G. I am no good, I am a failure, I am ugly, I suck in bed, etc., guess who’s talking? If you are worried about your place in the social system to make you feel worthy, or you get offended too quick, that is another clue.
We all have an ego to one degree or another. That is OK, it is our conscious mind, but we do not have to listen to it all the time. Even though it feels like us, it is not the true essence. Like many men, I let the ego dance a little too long at times. I worried about what people thought about me being non muscular, I measured my worth based on other people’s view about my formal education level, I did not fully open up due to fear of judgment, and other self-limiting zingers. Who needs that! Take the Fuck It Pledge!
Tapping into your soul
The other choice we can make is to lean into our true selves. Lean into our soul, or spirit, our essence. Remember, we are spirits having a human experience, and our soul is always with us because it is us. This means that we are worthy because we are alive, not based on earthly wealth, having a girlfriend, a PH.D, or anything else. The soul is underneath all the masks and layers that we show to the world. The ego is surface and outward based while the soul is deep in inward centered.
When your soul is behind the wheel, you feel and follow your gut feelings and intuitions, you love and value yourself totally, your passions, goals and ideas are something you feel deep within, and are not controlled by external things like social expectations. You will notice more synchronicities and you can enter a state of flow when involved with one of your deep passions.
The feeling of the soul
Many of us have had moments when we lived from our soul, even for a few minutes. It is a tough thing to do. It is hard to cut through all the noise, ignore the ego, listen to that inner voice, and then live from there. Holistic spirituality is how I live, and I have been able to move more in alignment to my soul.
- I accept myself more
- I am able to see, and then align myself to more synchronicities
- I am calmer
- I am less affected by other people’s energy
- My mind is quieter
There will always be a back and forth for many of us, but we can get closer and closer.
1. Practice gratitude
We connect to our soul by being grateful for everything we have in this moment. From the time you wake up until the time the day ends, there are a quintillion things to give thanks for.
Meditation is a surefire way to allow a space to connect with our soul.
- Find a quiet spot
- Sit or lay comfortably
- Breathe in slowly through your nose all the way down to your belly, and then slowly let it go through your mouth
- Focus on your breath
- Feel your feelings without judgment
- Start out with ten minutes the first time
3. Keep a journal
Keeping a journal is another solid way to tune into your soul energy. This is not just a regular journal, this is a soul journal. With some good deep prompts, you can let your soul speak the answer.
- How do I feel in my own body?
- What is one thing I need to know about myself?
- What is one thing that is stopping me from moving forward?
Things do not happen overnight, and you cannot rush the universe, but it is worth it to connect with yourself. As somebody who understands the challenge of soul alignment, I can help you start this journey. When you connect to who you really are, you will feel calmer, get more of what you want, have better sex, enjoy the little things, live with lower stress, and much much more.